Superficiality in Everyday Life: How Unconscious Behaviors Create Distance
Frenzy and Negative Behaviors: How Haste Affects Our Relationships
Body Language: How Indifference and Lack of Listening Destroy Bonds
Arrogance in Social Life: How Too Much Self-Focus Pushes Others Away
Charles Plumb's Lessons: Reflecting on Our Behaviors to Improve Relationships
How Superficiality in Communication Destroys Relationships and Creates Frustration
Haste and Arrogance: Recognizing When Our Behaviors Push Away Those Who Love Us
An attitude sometimes dictated by haste, superficiality and the idea of being strong
To offend people , create an irreconcilable distance, slowly build walls, it is not always necessary to do so with arguments or with sensational and clear actions.
Body language , lack of attention, taking a series of relationships and positions for granted, not speaking and, above all, the lack of concrete willingness to listen to others creates distance, frustration and lack of recognition.
Excessive concentration on ourselves , on our projects, on our objectives, marginalizes the people around us, our friends, even those who love us.
If we stop to think how many times it may have happened to us in life, either to suffer or to suffer these behaviors, perhaps by reflecting we could improve ourselves.
Charles Plumb , an airline pilot in the Vietnam War, also did this exercise.
After many combat missions, his plane was shot down by a missile. Plumb parachuted in, was captured, and spent six years in a North Vietnamese prison.
Upon his return to the United States, he began giving lectures recounting his prison experience and what he had learned.
One day, in a restaurant, he was greeted by a man:- Hi, you're Charles Plumb, you were a pilot in Vietnam and you were shot down, right?
“Yes, how do you know?” Plumb asked.
- I was the one who folded your parachute. Seems like it worked well, right?
Plumb almost drowned by surprise and gratefully replied:
“Of course it worked, and I'm grateful, otherwise I wouldn't be here today.”
Being alone that night, Plumb could not sleep, thinking and wondering:
How many times have I seen this man on the aircraft carrier and never said good morning to him? I was an arrogant pilot and he was a simple sailor.
He also thought of the hours the sailor spent humbly on the boat winding the silk threads of various parachutes, holding in his hands the life of someone he didn't know.
Now, Plumb begins his lectures by asking his audience:
- Who folded your parachute today?
How many times in our day are we arrogant, ignorant, rude due to the rush of work, household chores or personal problems?
This often happens to people we love and who want our good or even to a simple stranger.
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