Acting knowing that you are repenting and not finding the way to get closer, puts you in a state of perennial stress.

Not everyone takes steps in life without ever thinking about it, or looking back to understand what they have left behind after their passage.

Not everyone weaves social, family, work or emotional relationships knowing how to use the right words, the correct behaviors, the considered promises and the laudable actions.

Not everyone finds the tranquility of mind to remain immersed in the relationships they have woven, investing constructively in the relationship and finding that tranquility that is anxiously sought in life .

Not everyone is able to say yes, when it is necessary and no when the ideal watershed is overcome, not being afraid to discuss clearly and without any hesitation on the relationship .

Not everyone is able to face the risk that the other party may not understand, not accept or mediate the topic of the discussion, risking losing or wearing down the relationship.

But acting differently from what you would deem appropriate creates feelings of guilt, for what has not been done, for what has not been said, for what you wanted to be or what you wanted others to be or what the situation had been.

The fear of putting your relationship into play, work, emotional or friendship, puts you in a position to always see the worst conclusion of the problem, making you decide to don't face it to maintain the status quo.

The compromises you make with yourself lead you to undergo a relationship that will never suit you, because you don't experience it as a mediation of the positions between the parties, but of your defeat, creating a sense of inner discomfort, a form of constant imprisonment.

Not wanting to face problems equally makes you slip into a sterile silence, which accumulates renunciations on renunciations, feelings of guilt on feelings of guilt and definitively ruin the report.

Not feeling good about yourself means that you are unable to manage your relationships in a balanced way, letting yourself be carried away by situations or people, for fear that things can get even worse than they are.

Experience a sort of addiction to the negative, hoping that, day after day, a few negative bricks will accumulate in your relationships and dismissing the hypothesis that excessive weight can bring down your whole castle.

Saying what the solution is would be simplistic, because everyone builds their own negative way with different bricks, which come from different experiences, environmental situations, characters, culture and education.

But looking from the outside, it can be said that the road traveled in this sense is a dead end and that at times, the fear of loneliness and social exclusion , professional and emotional, is often more marked within oneself than it actually is.

Addressing all life situations in a constructive and open way cannot be such a great risk compared to leaving problems hidden under the carpet.

The evaluation of the risk that one can run to say yes or no real and sincere, is to be done by putting on the scale a greater inner serenity, an improvement of relationship and increased self-esteem.

Automatic translation. We apologize for any inaccuracies. Original article in Italian.